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How can I convince my Mother she has Bi-Polar Disorder?
First off what makes this more complicated is that my mother is a nurse at a local Psych Hospital. She does not think anything is wrong with her because of this but I will elaborate.
My mom has three kids, my brother 19, sister 21 and I 24. For the majority of our lives we assumed that it was normal for us to be uprooted and moved constantly. She has made job changes probably 40 to 50 times as far back as I remember. Being a nurse allows her to move from one company to another. After about 6 months to a year of work she always has problems with her fellow employees to the point that she cannot work there anymore.
For us kids she used to make us her slaves. The majority of my childhood I remember nothing but my mother laying in bed while delegating, with random perks of energy that would cause her bank account to become overdrawn. At one point we had gone so into debt that we had to live with my grandmother. While living there my grandmother made a comment about my mom just laying around, this intern led to my mother going over the deep end. Before i knew it she had us kids in the car and was threatening to run over my aunt. This trend repeated itself over and over until my late teen years.
At the age of 18 my school career was in shambles and i had the beginnings of an ulcer. And it dawned on me that what she was doing was literally killing me and siblings. So after a Very rough argument i moved with my father "Who i had been told was a worthless nothing my entire life", This was the best decision i ever could have made.
After 2 years living with my father i moved to Connecticut in which i lived for 3 years. After being laid off with a new baby, my mother contacted me about living with her and going to school and best yet i could bring my whole family. So after talking with my spouse "and me warning her about the way she used to be" she talked me into giving her a second chance stating that people do change.
When we moved back i found out that not only my sister had moved to my fathers but my brother had as well all with the same explosive fights. Apparently I had been taking the brunt of her outbursts all those years and when i left my sister was the next target. And then finally my brother.
Fast forward 2 years and this has been a complete hell. Not only has she not gotten any better, she has gotten worse. Much worse. I come home to two little girls crying because my mother waits till me and my spouse go to school and then yells and "bullies" them. On top of that im constantly on my guard trying to shelter them from the immense amount of pornography my mom has become obsessed with, on her computers and dvd's arriving in the mail. She is addicted to ebay so she spends most her money,while at the same time she is on dating sites 24/7 inviting strange men into the house. One of these characters actually had the gull to rob us while he was there. making off with our bread and lunch meat. And all the while she is writing letters about her killing herself and how she will do it to my sister, who is very forgiving of my mother. So she knows that this just eats my sister up inside. But now i'm moving out and even tho she is still sending threats about letting the overdue power bill just shut off and letting us burn up "including her 2 year old grandson". I am still attempting some way to get her some help for this issue.
So any ideas are welcome, She is in complete denial that anything is wrong with her even tho she has no friends, shes been married twice. once to my father and then she met and married a random guy online. So now she is about to be completely isolated, and i just fear she may actually do something risky. And i understand that i have no control over what she does, but my sister would feel almost as though it was her fault, because of all the evil emails and letters shes constantly writing. Sorry for the long read, i was sorta venting at the same time since she just told me she's going to shoot me in my sleep lol.
Asked by Ender time:2010-06-25 16:11:37
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